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38 | If I Speak Up, Won’t I Be Disrespecting Him Or Failing To Submit? 5 Communication Tips For Biblical Wives (Even If You Disagree With Him)

Am I being disrespectful when I disagree with him? Is speaking up unbiblical? What does submission actually look like in a healthy, Christ-centered marriage? This episode is for YOU. We’re busting the myth that submission equals silence — and leaning into what Scripture actually says about communication and being a biblical wife. 👑 Inside this episode: - The surprising root of combativeness in marriage (and how Micaiah overcame it) - The real meaning of a quiet and gentle spirit (spoiler: it’s not about being silent or small) - Why your tone matters more than your words — and how to practice a respectful one - How to check your heart posture before you speak 3 biblical examples of godly confrontation (Abigail, Esther, and even Jesus!) - 5 practical communication tips to speak up with love (even about hard things) 💡 You’ll walk away knowing:
How to honor God without losing your voice
Why submission doesn’t mean shrinking
What the Bible actually says about wives speaking truth in love 🎯
 
 
Resources & Links Mentioned: - Book a free marriage coaching session (for both spouses)
- Book a free biblical wife coaching session (with Micaiah & you)
- Download the free guide for wives 
 
Scriptures for further study: • Ephesians 5:22–24 • 1 Peter 3:1–4 • Proverbs 27:6, 12:4, 31:10–12, 21:9 • 1 Samuel 25 (Abigail) • Matthew 16:23 (Jesus & Peter) • Book of Esther Mentioned Book: Love & Respect by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs
 
❤️ Ready to take the next right step in your marriage? I’d love to help you get personal clarity on how to walk this out in your home. Book a free marriage coaching call — limited spots available! If this episode encouraged you, would you take 30 seconds to leave a review? Or share this with a friend who needs it? It helps more than you know.

37 | Is It Wrong To Feel Unhappy In A Christian Marriage? 3 Truths To Kill The Guilt Of Being Unhappy Or Needing Christian Marriage Help

Do you feel guilty for being unhappy in your marriage? Do you feel ashamed of the state of your marriage, and stuck in keeping it a secret? Are you searching for Christian marriage help? Thinking and praying about how to save your Christian marriage? Feeling stuck in your marriage? Maybe you have considered a Christian marriage coach, marriage help books, or podcasts on Christian marriage restoration. 
You’re not alone! In this episode, I’ll walk you through how to overcome guilt and be radically honest about your needs without triggering a defensive shutdown from your spouse 🩵. Whether you're feeling distant or downright disappointed, there's a better way to speak up—and invite healing. 🌱
✨ What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
How to gently bring up hard things without starting an argument
Why the phrase “we need to talk” shuts him down—and what to say instead
A simple script for when you're feeling unseen, overwhelmed, or disappointed
The power of speaking life over your husband (even when you're upset!)
Why hiding your hurt doesn’t make you holy—and what God says about honesty
A journaling prompt and prayer reflection to help you get real with God
🎧 Listen in now and learn:
How to create honest, healing conversations in your marriage without guilt, blame, or manipulation. You don’t have to keep quiet—and you don’t have to go to war. Let’s talk about a better way 💬✝️
🧠 Resources & Links Mentioned:
Free Marriage Coaching Call
Grab The Free Guide For Wives
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36 | Do You Feel Lonely? How To Deal With A Distant Husband (4 tips + biblical encouragement)

What To Do When Your Husband Pulls Away Emotionally (4 Christ-Centered Tools That Actually Work)
Is your husband pulling away, and you don’t know how to fix it? 💔You're not alone—and you’re not powerless. Today, we're diving into 4 practical, faith-rooted ways to respond when your husband emotionally shuts down. If you're tired of the emotional distance and ready for a REAL connection, this episode is for you. 🙏
What You’ll Learn in This Episode:✔️ Why your husband might be withdrawing—and what’s really behind it✔️ How to respond with wisdom instead of desperation✔️ The power of speaking life over your marriage✔️ Why emotional safety starts with your own calm presence✔️ How your childhood wounds might be repeating themselves in your marriage✔️ A faith-based mindset shift that will change your prayers (and your marriage!)✔️ What to do today to start healing emotional distance
🎧 Listen in now if you're ready to:→ Feel more connected with your husband, even when he's shutting down→ Learn how to create safety and calm in your marriage (without losing yourself)→ Invite God into the deepest, loneliest parts of your relationship→ Get equipped with Christ-centered tools that work in real life
Resources & Links Mentioned:💍 Book a free marriage coaching call with me📘 Deeply Connected Marriage Program📚 Book mentioned: The Circle Maker by Mark BattersonDevotional mentioned: Tend What You Can Reach
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35 | How Do I Bring Up Marriage Coaching Or Marriage Counseling Without Him Shutting Down? 4 Gentle Ways To Invite Your Husband Into A Season Of Marriage Growth

How to Get Your Husband on Board Without Pushing Him Away
Are you craving support for your marriage—but your husband’s just not there yet? This episode is for every wife who’s feeling stuck, doing the work alone, and praying her husband will say yes to coaching, counseling, or support.
➡️ Inside this episode, I’ll show you how to invite your husband into the process without nagging, pressuring, or making him feel like the villain. You’ll learn:
Why curiosity is your superpower (and how to use it biblically)
The exact questions to ask that lower his defenses and open his heart
What to say when you don’t agree with him but still want to stay connected
How to share your growth without sounding preachy or pushy
The secret to letting him see the fruit of your transformation
How to reframe coaching as a tool—not a threat
The spiritual mindset shift that will strengthen your faith and your marriage
If you've been trying to carry this burden alone, take a deep breath. You don’t have to do it all perfectly—and you don’t have to wait for your husband to take the first step.
✨ You can honor your husband and still ask for help.
🎧 Tune in now and be encouraged, equipped, and reminded that your marriage is not stuck—it's just waiting for the right strategy and Spirit-led guidance.
 
Resources & Links Mentioned:
Grab Our Free Guide For Wives
Book a free coaching call with Micaiah
Apply For The Deeply Connected Marriage Coaching Program
 
 
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34 | Is It Normal That We Don't fight But We Aren't Close Either? How To Recognize Emotional Distance In Your Christian Marriage

Why Peace in Marriage Doesn’t Always Mean You Have A Deeply Connected Marriage.In this episode, we break down what emotional distance really looks and feels like. I share a personal story from my own marriage to show you what it was like for me and reassure you that you are not alone in feeling this way.You will also find some loving, biblical encouragement and some practical steps that you can begin taking to improve your connection. If you are tired of feeling lonely in your Christian marriage and you keep wondering how to create a deeper connection to your spouse, then this is the episode for you!Links & Resources:Grab My Free Guide For WivesGrab A Free Coaching Call With MicaiahApply To Join The Deeply Connected Marriage Coaching Program
 

33 | What If My Husband Isn't Interested In Working On Our Marriage? 5 Steps For Christian Wives To Heal Their Marriage Without Their Husbands Support

Feel like you're the only one trying to heal your marriage? Here’s how to move forward spiritually and emotionally—before your spouse ever decides to join you.
If your husband isn’t ready to lead, change, or even talk about it—here’s what you can do (and why it matters more than you think). You’ll leave this episode with biblical encouragement, practical action steps, and renewed hope for what God can do… even if it feels like you're doing it alone right now.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
Why focusing on your own habits and healing is the most powerful first step
How to invite your spouse in without pressure or manipulation
The surprising power of serving during seasons of waiting
Why "I statements" and soft starts can completely shift your conversations
What Scripture says about wives winning over their husbands—without a word
How to spiritually fast, even if your husband won’t join you
📌 Don’t forget:Your behavior rooted in purity, prayer, and reverence has eternal impact. Even if he’s not on board yet, God is already moving.
✨ Resources & Links Mentioned:
Book a Free Coaching Call With Me
Join Our Free Facebook Group
Apply To Join The Deeply Connected Marriage Coaching Program
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32 | How Do You Get Your Husband To Lead Spiritually? What to Do If Your Husband Won’t Lead Spiritually: A Biblical Wife’s Response

Are you a Christian wife longing for your husband to step into spiritual leadership—but feeling discouraged, disconnected, or even resentful that he won’t? What directions does scripture give to wives of husbands who don't lead spiritually? Looking for Bible Scriptures as a Wife? Wondering what the husband's spiritual leader's verses say?In this episode, we explore what it means to be a biblical wife according to 1 Peter 3 and how God invites us to honor Him even when our marriage doesn’t look like we imagined.
Micaiah walks through a powerful 1 Peter 3 commentary, revealing what the Bible really says about submission, respect, and spiritual influence in marriage. Whether you're a newlywed seeking Christian marriage advice for newlyweds or you've been walking through years of emotional distance, this conversation offers real, biblical hope.
This episode is especially for the wife who’s asking:
Where is marriage in the Bible?
What does the Bible say about a quarrelsome wife?
How can I respect my husband when he isn’t leading?
What does a godly wife in the Bible actually do when she feels alone?
We unpack what it looks like to live out your biblical wife role, including the bible verse "wife respect your husband", and the deeper meaning of a gentle and quiet spirit. You’ll also learn why trying to take over your husband's role can sabotage your connection—and how stepping back into your God-given place can restore Christian marriage intimacy and trust.
If you’ve ever wondered what the Christian wife duties really are or how to embody the biblical wife characteristics modeled by the virtuous woman in Proverbs, this episode is for you.
In This Episode You’ll Learn:
What the Bible says about a wife’s role in marriage
The connection between a wife’s respect and her husband’s spiritual growth
What it truly means to submit to your husband (biblically—not culturally!)
Why Christian marriage emotional abuse must never be justified by Scripture, but how it might actually just be a lack of respect and a presence of fleshly pride in your marriage.
How to live out the 'honor your husband' Bible verses and not lose yourself
How to become the best Christian wife you can be without shame or striving
Why biblical woman characteristics are not weakness, but spiritual strength
What to do when your husband is spiritually distant, passive, or unbelieving
Resources & Support:
📖 Ready to renew your mind and rebuild your marriage God’s way? Apply now for the Deeply Connected Marriage Coaching Program 
📞 Want to talk it through first? Book a free clarity call with Micaiah
📚 Recommended reading: Love & Respect by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs
📔 Looking for a Christian marriage devotional? Start With Our Free Guide For Wives
Coming Soon: Grab our list of 101 ways to respect your husband, filled with encouragement, Scripture, and practical action steps to help you walk in your God-given calling as a wife.
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31 | Three Signs Pride Is Killing Your Marriage (+ A Prayer To Defeat It)

Is Pride Quietly Sabotaging Your Christian Marriage?
Have you been wondering what the Bible says about marriage problems? Ever find yourself stuck in frustration, negativity, or even resentment, and not sure why? You’re not alone. These moments can quietly chip away at connection, and often, pride is at the root.
In this episode, we’re getting real about the sneaky signs of pride in a Christian marriage, how it might be affecting the emotional intimacy in your relationship, and what you can do to change it—starting today.
This isn’t about shame. It’s about healing. And it’s rooted in Scripture, spiritual insight, and real-life growth from someone who’s walked through it, too.
What you’ll learn in this episode:
How your posture and body language may reveal deeper emotional disconnection
What your facial expressions are communicating—and how they affect your husband
The surprising connection between humility and healing in marriage
A simple mind-body tool to reset your attitude
The truth about the role of a wife in a Christian marriage—and why humility isn’t weakness
A powerful Christian marriage prayer to help you release pride and reconnect
Why living out the “respect your husband” Bible verse is actually about surrender
Whether you're looking for Christian marriage counseling questions, prayers for a failing marriage, or just a deeper understanding of how to be a godly wife, this episode offers truth, grace, and practical help for every season.
Don’t forget: Save this episode so you can replay the prayer anytime you need a reminder to lay pride down and pick up humility. Resources & Links Mentioned: 📞 Book a free marriage coaching call🎁 Grab The Free Secure Marriage Method Workbook For Wives📝 Apply For Our Marriage Coaching Program (even if you're just curious!)🩵 If this episode encouraged you, leave a quick review or share it on your stories. You never know who else might need this reminder that God’s design for marriage brings healing, not shame.

Bonus | Feeling Stuck in Fight or Flight? Biblical Healing for Trauma, Triggers & Nervous System Restoration (With Special Guest: Melanie Chavez, Christian Woman Healing Trauma Host)

Have you ever thought, “Why am I so reactive when life feels safe?”Maybe you’ve asked, “Why do I still feel stuck in fight or flight—even though I’m praying, reading my Bible, and doing all the ‘right’ things?”
If you’ve ever felt like your body is stuck in fight or flight—even when nothing around you feels dangerous—this episode will meet you right where you are.
We’re talking about the reality of living with PTSD, being stuck in fight or flight, how trauma physically rewires our bodies, and most importantly, what biblical spiritual healing looks like when you're ready to reclaim peace.
My guest shares how she spent years unknowingly stuck in survival mode, even after becoming a believer. Through honest conversation and her personal story, we explore:
What it looks like to be stuck in fight or flight for years
The difference between self-help and biblical healing that lasts
How Scripture and spiritual rhythms support the nervous system stuck in fight or flight (& treatment of it)
The surprising signs your nervous system is still in fight or flight mode
Why prioritizing time with God is essential for biblical healing from childhood trauma
Encouraging biblical healing quotes and a powerful healing trauma quote to hold onto when you’re weary
We also talk about how motherhood, marriage, and daily stress can keep us cycling through emotional overwhelm unless we intentionally seek God's healing.
This isn’t just about regulating your emotions. It’s about true biblical spiritual healing—the kind that doesn’t just calm your body but transforms your soul.
Whether you’ve just realized you’re stuck or you’ve been stuck in fight or flight for a long time and are finally ready for peace, this is the episode to ground you in truth, grace, and practical hope.
If you’ve ever wondered things like:
How to get out of fight or flight (Reddit didn’t help)
Why does my nervous system feel stuck, even after therapy?
Is there such a thing as biblical healing from childhood trauma?
...then, friend, pull up a chair. This conversation is honest, holy, and full of hope.
QUICK LINKS:👉 Grab Melanie's free journal prompts for healing 👉 Apply for Melanie's Surrender To Heal Group Coaching Program👉 Join Melanie's Free Group where she hosts weekly Coffee Chats
Don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and share this episode with a friend who’s ready for real healing.

30 | Godly Marriage Advice For Newly-Weds: 3 Things You Need To Know For A Healthy Christian Marriage

Are you newly married and wondering why it already feels harder than you expected?Is the spark still there—but your communication feels...off?Does something feel “off” spiritually, emotionally, or even physically in your marriage—and you don’t know why?
Then this episode was recorded just for you.
In today’s power-packed episode, I’m sharing three essential things newlyweds must know to build a God-centered, emotionally safe, spiritually strong marriage from day one. Whether you’ve been married 3 weeks or 3 years, what you’ll hear today will help you:
✅ Identify the root causes of ongoing tension and emotional shutdowns✅ Recognize the hidden role trauma might be playing in your marriage✅ Learn why spiritual warfare shows up early—and how to fight it together✅ Discover practical, biblical wisdom that anchors your relationship in Christ
I’m not just giving “nice” Christian marriage advice. This is raw, real, honest truth from the trenches of helping couples who love Jesus—but are still hurting. If you want intimacy without insecurity, peace instead of pressure, and a marriage that gets stronger with time—not weaker—this is your next listen.
✨ Plus, I’ll share 5 Bible verses that will transform how you speak, forgive, and lead your heart in marriage—even when things feel stuck.
 
Want to go further?➡️ Grab my Free Workbook For Wives Called The Secure Marriage Method➡️ Join the Deeply Connected Marriage Coaching Program
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Book A Free Coaching Call For WIVES With Micaiah 
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