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34 | Is It Normal That We Don't fight But We Aren't Close Either? How To Recognize Emotional Distance In Your Christian Marriage

Why Peace in Marriage Doesn’t Always Mean You Have A Deeply Connected Marriage.In this episode, we break down what emotional distance really looks and feels like. I share a personal story from my own marriage to show you what it was like for me and reassure you that you are not alone in feeling this way.You will also find some loving, biblical encouragement and some practical steps that you can begin taking to improve your connection. If you are tired of feeling lonely in your Christian marriage and you keep wondering how to create a deeper connection to your spouse, then this is the episode for you!Links & Resources:Grab My Free Guide For WivesGrab A Free Coaching Call With MicaiahApply To Join The Deeply Connected Marriage Coaching Program
 

33 | What If My Husband Isn't Interested In Working On Our Marriage? 5 Steps For Christian Wives To Heal Their Marriage Without Their Husbands Support

Feel like you're the only one trying to heal your marriage? Here’s how to move forward spiritually and emotionally—before your spouse ever decides to join you.
If your husband isn’t ready to lead, change, or even talk about it—here’s what you can do (and why it matters more than you think). You’ll leave this episode with biblical encouragement, practical action steps, and renewed hope for what God can do… even if it feels like you're doing it alone right now.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
Why focusing on your own habits and healing is the most powerful first step
How to invite your spouse in without pressure or manipulation
The surprising power of serving during seasons of waiting
Why "I statements" and soft starts can completely shift your conversations
What Scripture says about wives winning over their husbands—without a word
How to spiritually fast, even if your husband won’t join you
📌 Don’t forget:Your behavior rooted in purity, prayer, and reverence has eternal impact. Even if he’s not on board yet, God is already moving.
✨ Resources & Links Mentioned:
Book a Free Coaching Call With Me
Join Our Free Facebook Group
Apply To Join The Deeply Connected Marriage Coaching Program
🙏 Leave a Review & Share the Love!If this episode blessed you, leave a quick review + rating! And screenshot it to your stories to help spread hope to other wives just like you. 

32 | How Do You Get Your Husband To Lead Spiritually? What to Do If Your Husband Won’t Lead Spiritually: A Biblical Wife’s Response

Are you a Christian wife longing for your husband to step into spiritual leadership—but feeling discouraged, disconnected, or even resentful that he won’t? What directions does scripture give to wives of husbands who don't lead spiritually? Looking for Bible Scriptures as a Wife? Wondering what the husband's spiritual leader's verses say?In this episode, we explore what it means to be a biblical wife according to 1 Peter 3 and how God invites us to honor Him even when our marriage doesn’t look like we imagined.
Micaiah walks through a powerful 1 Peter 3 commentary, revealing what the Bible really says about submission, respect, and spiritual influence in marriage. Whether you're a newlywed seeking Christian marriage advice for newlyweds or you've been walking through years of emotional distance, this conversation offers real, biblical hope.
This episode is especially for the wife who’s asking:
Where is marriage in the Bible?
What does the Bible say about a quarrelsome wife?
How can I respect my husband when he isn’t leading?
What does a godly wife in the Bible actually do when she feels alone?
We unpack what it looks like to live out your biblical wife role, including the bible verse "wife respect your husband", and the deeper meaning of a gentle and quiet spirit. You’ll also learn why trying to take over your husband's role can sabotage your connection—and how stepping back into your God-given place can restore Christian marriage intimacy and trust.
If you’ve ever wondered what the Christian wife duties really are or how to embody the biblical wife characteristics modeled by the virtuous woman in Proverbs, this episode is for you.
In This Episode You’ll Learn:
What the Bible says about a wife’s role in marriage
The connection between a wife’s respect and her husband’s spiritual growth
What it truly means to submit to your husband (biblically—not culturally!)
Why Christian marriage emotional abuse must never be justified by Scripture, but how it might actually just be a lack of respect and a presence of fleshly pride in your marriage.
How to live out the 'honor your husband' Bible verses and not lose yourself
How to become the best Christian wife you can be without shame or striving
Why biblical woman characteristics are not weakness, but spiritual strength
What to do when your husband is spiritually distant, passive, or unbelieving
Resources & Support:
📖 Ready to renew your mind and rebuild your marriage God’s way? Apply now for the Deeply Connected Marriage Coaching Program 
📞 Want to talk it through first? Book a free clarity call with Micaiah
📚 Recommended reading: Love & Respect by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs
📔 Looking for a Christian marriage devotional? Start With Our Free Guide For Wives
Coming Soon: Grab our list of 101 ways to respect your husband, filled with encouragement, Scripture, and practical action steps to help you walk in your God-given calling as a wife.
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31 | Three Signs Pride Is Killing Your Marriage (+ A Prayer To Defeat It)

Is Pride Quietly Sabotaging Your Christian Marriage?
Have you been wondering what the Bible says about marriage problems? Ever find yourself stuck in frustration, negativity, or even resentment, and not sure why? You’re not alone. These moments can quietly chip away at connection, and often, pride is at the root.
In this episode, we’re getting real about the sneaky signs of pride in a Christian marriage, how it might be affecting the emotional intimacy in your relationship, and what you can do to change it—starting today.
This isn’t about shame. It’s about healing. And it’s rooted in Scripture, spiritual insight, and real-life growth from someone who’s walked through it, too.
What you’ll learn in this episode:
How your posture and body language may reveal deeper emotional disconnection
What your facial expressions are communicating—and how they affect your husband
The surprising connection between humility and healing in marriage
A simple mind-body tool to reset your attitude
The truth about the role of a wife in a Christian marriage—and why humility isn’t weakness
A powerful Christian marriage prayer to help you release pride and reconnect
Why living out the “respect your husband” Bible verse is actually about surrender
Whether you're looking for Christian marriage counseling questions, prayers for a failing marriage, or just a deeper understanding of how to be a godly wife, this episode offers truth, grace, and practical help for every season.
Don’t forget: Save this episode so you can replay the prayer anytime you need a reminder to lay pride down and pick up humility. Resources & Links Mentioned: 📞 Book a free marriage coaching call🎁 Grab The Free Secure Marriage Method Workbook For Wives📝 Apply For Our Marriage Coaching Program (even if you're just curious!)🩵 If this episode encouraged you, leave a quick review or share it on your stories. You never know who else might need this reminder that God’s design for marriage brings healing, not shame.

Bonus | Feeling Stuck in Fight or Flight? Biblical Healing for Trauma, Triggers & Nervous System Restoration (With Special Guest: Melanie Chavez, Christian Woman Healing Trauma Host)

Have you ever thought, “Why am I so reactive when life feels safe?”Maybe you’ve asked, “Why do I still feel stuck in fight or flight—even though I’m praying, reading my Bible, and doing all the ‘right’ things?”
If you’ve ever felt like your body is stuck in fight or flight—even when nothing around you feels dangerous—this episode will meet you right where you are.
We’re talking about the reality of living with PTSD, being stuck in fight or flight, how trauma physically rewires our bodies, and most importantly, what biblical spiritual healing looks like when you're ready to reclaim peace.
My guest shares how she spent years unknowingly stuck in survival mode, even after becoming a believer. Through honest conversation and her personal story, we explore:
What it looks like to be stuck in fight or flight for years
The difference between self-help and biblical healing that lasts
How Scripture and spiritual rhythms support the nervous system stuck in fight or flight (& treatment of it)
The surprising signs your nervous system is still in fight or flight mode
Why prioritizing time with God is essential for biblical healing from childhood trauma
Encouraging biblical healing quotes and a powerful healing trauma quote to hold onto when you’re weary
We also talk about how motherhood, marriage, and daily stress can keep us cycling through emotional overwhelm unless we intentionally seek God's healing.
This isn’t just about regulating your emotions. It’s about true biblical spiritual healing—the kind that doesn’t just calm your body but transforms your soul.
Whether you’ve just realized you’re stuck or you’ve been stuck in fight or flight for a long time and are finally ready for peace, this is the episode to ground you in truth, grace, and practical hope.
If you’ve ever wondered things like:
How to get out of fight or flight (Reddit didn’t help)
Why does my nervous system feel stuck, even after therapy?
Is there such a thing as biblical healing from childhood trauma?
...then, friend, pull up a chair. This conversation is honest, holy, and full of hope.
QUICK LINKS:👉 Grab Melanie's free journal prompts for healing 👉 Apply for Melanie's Surrender To Heal Group Coaching Program👉 Join Melanie's Free Group where she hosts weekly Coffee Chats
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30 | Godly Marriage Advice For Newly-Weds: 3 Things You Need To Know For A Healthy Christian Marriage

Are you newly married and wondering why it already feels harder than you expected?Is the spark still there—but your communication feels...off?Does something feel “off” spiritually, emotionally, or even physically in your marriage—and you don’t know why?
Then this episode was recorded just for you.
In today’s power-packed episode, I’m sharing three essential things newlyweds must know to build a God-centered, emotionally safe, spiritually strong marriage from day one. Whether you’ve been married 3 weeks or 3 years, what you’ll hear today will help you:
✅ Identify the root causes of ongoing tension and emotional shutdowns✅ Recognize the hidden role trauma might be playing in your marriage✅ Learn why spiritual warfare shows up early—and how to fight it together✅ Discover practical, biblical wisdom that anchors your relationship in Christ
I’m not just giving “nice” Christian marriage advice. This is raw, real, honest truth from the trenches of helping couples who love Jesus—but are still hurting. If you want intimacy without insecurity, peace instead of pressure, and a marriage that gets stronger with time—not weaker—this is your next listen.
✨ Plus, I’ll share 5 Bible verses that will transform how you speak, forgive, and lead your heart in marriage—even when things feel stuck.
 
Want to go further?➡️ Grab my Free Workbook For Wives Called The Secure Marriage Method➡️ Join the Deeply Connected Marriage Coaching Program
Need Personal Support?🚨 Only 6 Free Calls Left
Book A Free Coaching Call For WIVES With Micaiah 
Or Book A Marriage Coaching Call For Both Husband & Wife With Micaiah & Levi
 
 

Bonus | Marriage Killers: The 3 Biggest Threats To Your Realtionship

Are you unintentionally letting dysfunction creep into your marriage? Are you stuck in loops of asking yourself what's going wrong in your marriage?In today’s episode of the United Christian Marriage Podcast, we’re breaking down the top 3 threats to your relationship—the “marriage killers” that sabotage even strong couples. I’m sharing personal stories (yes, even crying-in-bed moments), how we worked through it with God’s help, and the tools we now rely on when things get hard. What You’ll Learn: - The 3 biggest threats that quietly destroy Christian marriages - How to recognize if one (or all) of them is already active in your home - A personal story of emotional overload and how I used our emotional reboot tool to reset - The importance of community when you’re walking through marriage struggles 🙋‍♀️ Ready to go deeper? Join the United Christian Marriage Facebook group for daily encouragement, biblical tools, and real conversations about what it takes to build a Christ-centered home. I’d love to see your face and get to know your story 💛Other Mentioned Resources:
Listen to the episode that explains the P.A.T.H. to processing emotions🎉 Join The Deeply Connected Marriage Coaching Program

29 | Marriage is a Covenant, Not a Contract: Why This Mindset Shift Changes Everything

Are you thinking about marriage God's way, or are you thinking about it the world's way? Are you quietly stuck in a “lazy love” season of marriage? Not on the edge of divorce, but not thriving either? In this episode, we’re examining what the Bible says about the marriage covenant and uncovering three key reasons your relationship might feel blah, even if no one else notices.  Don’t miss the encouragement at the end, including a powerful prayer over your marriage and a handful of Bible verses you’ll want to save for later. What You’ll Learn in This Episode: - The surprising trap of “lazy contentment” and why it's so common - The difference between grateful rest and spiritual stagnation in marriage - 3 big reasons your marriage might feel stuck (and how to move forward)- Key scriptures to anchor your heart and your home: A heartfelt prayer for hurting, numb, or disengaged couples Your Next Step: If today’s episode stirred something in your heart and you want personalized help figuring out what to do next, book a free marriage coaching call with me! I’ll help you get clear on what’s keeping you stuck and how to take the next right step toward healing. 📌 Resources & Links Mentioned: Join the Facebook group: United Christian Marriage ➡️ Book a free coaching call with me 🎉 Join The Deeply Connected Marriage Coaching ProgramLeave a ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ review to help others find this message:1. Go to the United Christian Marriage podcast page on Apple Podcasts (the main one, make sure you aren't on an episode)2. Scroll all the way down, under the episodes, and stop when you see ratings and reviews. 3. Between the reviews others have left and the "About" section, there is a little button that says "Write a Review". Click on that, type 5 stars, title your review, and then write what you like about the show. Then press "Submit" in the top right corner.
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Bonus | This Surprising Habit Brought Her and Her Husband Closer Than Ever: Building Confidence & Connection Through Fitness (w/ Special Guest Rachel DeSonier, Host of Effective Weight Loss For Moms)

What if lifting weights could restore connection in your marriage? 💪 In this unexpected conversation, I sit down with Christian fitness and nutrition coach and mom of many, Rachel DeSonier, to talk about how strength training can reshape more than just your body. Getting stronger requires understanding both exercise and nutrition.We dive into identity, confidence, and the ripple effect it has on your relationship.About Rachel: Rachel DeSonier is both a Registered Dietitian and a CertifiedPersonal Trainer, as well as a mom of 5. She specializes in helpingmoms gain confidence through incorporating simple, effectivestrength training routines into their lives. She pairs this with hernutrition expertise to help them fuel their workouts and lose fat atthe same time.Rachel takes a practical, step-by-step approach to help moms builda new lifestyle that helps them reach their weight loss goals in asustainable way. No more crash diets! Her specialty is helping momscreate consistency with their fitness goals.When she isn’t podcasting or coaching her clients, Rachel can befound in the weights section of her gym, gardening, or attempting tokeep her 5 young kids out of mischief.📎 Resources & Links Mentioned: 🎥 Free “No Fear Weight Room Tour” video 🎧 Listen to the Effective Weight Loss For Moms podcast
🤝 Book a Free Coaching Call with Micaiah & Levi to talk through how you and your spouse can take that next right step in your marriage

28 | Sick Of Fighting? Here's How To Stop Any Argument In It's Track

Do You Struggle With Snapping, Fighting, or Overreacting in Your Marriage? Here's a Script You Can Use When You're Triggered
Are you ever surprised by how fast you go from calm to reactive? 😤 Maybe you feel blindsided by your own emotions, or you're wondering, "Why did I snap like that?"
In today’s episode, I’m walking you through a simple but powerful reset script that you can use when you or your spouse gets triggered. 💬 Whether it's something your spouse said—or how they said it—this episode gives you the exact words to say to de-escalate the moment and move toward healing instead of hurt.
We talk about:
✨ Why your reaction is often deeper than the moment
🛑 The simple phrase that can change the tone of your entire marriage
🗣️ A full reset script to use in real-time, even when emotions are high
🙏 How to pause, pray, and invite the Holy Spirit into your marriage conflict
🎁 PLUS: I share a coaching strategy you can use this week to practice resetting with your spouse, without stuffing your feelings or avoiding the hard stuff.
👇 Listen now if you're ready to:
Stop spiraling in arguments
Create safety during conflict
Lead your home with emotional maturity and grace
Let’s transform how you handle those hot-button moments—because you’re not broken, you’re just human. And with the Holy Spirit, there's always hope for healing. 💛
📌 Resources & Links Mentioned:
👉 Book a free Christian marriage coaching call
Join The Deeply Connected Marriage Coaching Program
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