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23 | How to Be a Remembering Wife—How God Calls Us to Remember and Why It Matters in Marriage

How to Shift Your Mindset and Transform Your Marriage
Ever feel like no matter how much effort you put into your marriage, you keep running into the same struggles? You’re not alone. But what if the solution isn’t just about doing more—but actually about thinking differently?
In today’s episode, we’re diving deep into how your thoughts shape your marriage. If you’ve ever found yourself stuck in frustration, questioning your relationship, or feeling like you’re not making progress, this is for you. We’ll unpack the role of past experiences, how to break free from negative cycles, and the small mindset shifts that can lead to real, lasting change.
What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
✨ The surprising link between your past experiences and your current marriage struggles✨ Why focusing on past frustrations keeps you stuck—and what to do instead✨ How your brain’s negativity bias impacts your relationship (and how to override it)✨ A simple mindset shift that can help you reconnect with your spouse today
Here’s the truth: You already have the tools you need to create the marriage you desire. Sometimes, you just need help recognizing them. That’s where I come in.
 
Free Resources:
🎁 Let’s talk about your marriage! Book a free coaching call with me, and let’s see if you’re a good fit for my program. And if not? You’ll still walk away with clarity and tools to take the next step. Click here to book →Have a specific question you want to keep anonymous? Ask it here if you want to get your anonymous question asked on the podcast!
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Praying for you and your marriage always. 💕
 
Are you ready to join the United Marriage Coaching Program?Join my 6-month coaching program today, and get the personalized help you need! Click here if you are ready to invest in your marriage!
 
 

22 | How to Communicate With Your Husband So He Wants to Say Yes

How to Communicate With Your Husband So He Wants to Say Yes. Do you ever feel like no matter how you ask, your husband just doesn’t hear what you’re really saying? Maybe he gets defensive, shuts down, or just flat-out resists what you're asking. In this episode, we’re diving deep into how to communicate with your husband in a way that makes him actually want to say yes. And no—it’s not manipulation. It’s about understanding how men naturally receive communication and using that to build a stronger, more united marriage.
If you’re tired of feeling unheard or frustrated in your conversations with your husband, this episode is a must-listen!
 
What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
✔️ Why your husband may not be responding the way you want✔️ The surprising reason he might be resisting—even when he wants to make you happy✔️ How shifting your communication approach can completely change how he listens and responds✔️ The biblical foundation for why your husband should desire to please you✔️ How embracing your feminine role actually strengthens your marriage
Episode Highlights:
✨ “Imagine if your husband was excited to say yes to what you asked—without arguing, resistance, or frustration.”
✨ “When we step into a role that isn’t ours, we forfeit the blessings of the role God actually gave us.”
✨ “Your husband wants to make you happy, but sometimes, the way we communicate makes him feel attacked instead.”
Resources Mentioned:
🎧 Bonus Episode: My Review of The Empowered Wife by Laura Doyle – If you want to hear my honest thoughts on this book and how it aligns with Christian marriage, check out this bonus episode.Book a Free Coaching Call with Micaiah HereJoin the 6-month United Marriage Coaching Program
Ask Micaiah A Question To Be Answered on the Podcast
 
💬 Let’s Connect!Join the conversation inside our Facebook group for Christian wives who want to build a stronger, more united marriage!
📅 Need personal guidance? Book a free coaching call with me here and let’s work through your marriage struggles together!
👂 Enjoyed this episode? Leave a review and share with a friend who needs this encouragement today!

Bonus | My Messiest & Most Vulnerable Episode: 4 Steps To Stop Pressuring Yourself (Using Self-Coaching Tools)

Feeling Rushed, Overwhelmed, and Behind? Here's the Truth You Need to Hear
Ever feel like you're constantly rushing, overwhelmed, and always behind? You're not alone. In today’s raw and unfiltered episode, I’m coming to you straight from my phone because I had to get this out. No fancy intro, no perfectly planned script—just an honest conversation about the pressure we put on ourselves as wives, moms, and business owners.
Inside this episode, I’m sharing:✔️ The overwhelming pressure I was putting on myself to do it all and how it showed up in my life.✔️ The eye-opening realization I had during a coaching call that changed everything.✔️ Why so many of us struggle with feeling rushed and how it impacts our marriages, families, and businesses.✔️ The truth about your worth (hint: it’s not tied to how much you accomplish).✔️ A mindset shift that will help you let go of the pressure and find more peace in your life.
If you’ve ever felt like you have to keep pushing, like slowing down isn’t an option, or that taking something off your plate means you’re failing—you need to hear this.
✨ Resources & Links Mentioned:📌 Ready for faith-based marriage coaching? I’m opening spots! Get personalized guidance for both you and your spouse at an incredibly affordable rate. Click here to learn more.
📌 Book a FREE coaching call with Micaiah here
📌 Join our United Christian Marriage Facebook group for encouragement and support. Join here.
 
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United Christian Marriage Podcast | Heal, Restore & Strengthen Your Marriage in Christ
Do you feel stuck in the same marriage struggles—communication breakdowns, emotional distance, or lingering past hurts? Have you ever wondered if your marriage can truly heal and thrive again?
Welcome to the United Christian Marriage Podcast, where I show you the road to two people becoming ONE in their marriage. Here we talk about faith meets real-life marriage struggles. Hosted by Christian marriage coach Micaiah Gray, this podcast is for wives who want to break free from dysfunction, rebuild trust, and create a Christ-centered marriage filled with love, grace, and unity; all while bringing their husbands into the process. 
Here, you’ll learn:✅ How to strengthen/heal your marriage through biblical principles and practical tools✅ The impact of past trauma on your relationship—and how to stop the cycle✅ How to restore intimacy and feel truly connected with your spouse again✅ Ways to strengthen communication, navigate challenges, and build lasting unity
Whether you're in a tough season or simply want to take your marriage to the next level, each episode gives you clear, faith-based strategies to grow together as a couple.
🎁 Ready for real transformation?Book a free coaching call with Micaiah today and take the next step toward a stronger, healthier marriage. Click here to schedule!
👉 Follow now and start your journey to a thriving, Christ-centered marriage!

Bonus | Reviewing The Empowered Wife Book by Laura Doyle

My Honest Review on the Empowered Wife Audio Book
📖 In this episode, I’m diving into a popular marriage book that focuses on wives. While it offers some great insights, there were a few things that didn’t sit right with me—especially when it comes to unity, communication, and a biblical understanding of marriage. Should wives be keeping marriage resources a secret from their husbands? How should we approach self-care in marriage? And when addressing sin, what's the best biblical approach? Tune in to hear my honest review and personal experiences!  
 
🎙️ What You'll Learn:  ✔️ Why marriage resources should be for both husbands and wives  ✔️ The importance of unity and communication in marriage  ✔️ Why self-care can sometimes be misunderstood in marriage  ✔️ Biblical insights on addressing sin and supporting each other  ✔️ My personal experience with the book’s recommendations 
 
⏳ Episode Timestamps:  [14:54] - Why this book focuses only on wives & why I made my coaching program for both spouses  [15:37] - The problem with keeping marriage resources a secret from your husband  [18:48] - My funny experience trying the book’s “just say no” self-care advice  [20:10] - What biblical self-care really looks like  [21:23] - The issue with how the book addresses “corn with a P” and why it’s a serious problem  [24:09] - Final thoughts: Is this book a good first step?  
 
Take the Next Step:  👉 Ready for personalized support in your marriage? Book a free coaching call with me [here] 
📢 Loved this episode? Share it with a friend and leave a review! Your feedback helps get this message out to more Christian couples who are seeking hope and healing in their marriages. ❤️  
 
Let's Grow Together!  
Thank you so much for tuning into The United Christian Marriage Podcast! I hope this episode gave you clarity and encouragement in your marriage.  
If you found value in today’s conversation, I would be so grateful if you would leave a 5-star review! Your support makes a difference and helps other couples discover the tools and resources they need to heal.  
👉 Also, if you have a minute, screenshot this episode and share it on your Instagram stories. Let’s spread this message of healing far and wide!  
I’m praying for you and your marriage. Can’t wait to join you next time. Until then, God bless!  
 
Listen: Does Healing Your Marriage Require Both Spouses? 3 Simple Things Wives Can Do To Start Healing Their Marriage Today
Buy The Book: Buy The Empowered Wife
 
 
📢 Book a Call- Change Your MarriageDon’t forget to book your free coaching call with me [here] - and let’s work together to bring healing and peace to your marriage!
 
 

21 | Can A Marriage Be Restored? What To Do When You Feel HOPELESS.

Listen to this before you give up on your marriage. 
💔 Can A Marriage Be Restored? What To Do When You Feel HOPELESS
If your marriage feels broken beyond repair, you’re not alone. Maybe you’ve tried everything—counseling, books, praying—but nothing seems to change. So what now? Can a marriage really be restored when you feel hopeless?
In today’s episode, we’re diving deep into what restoration actually looks like, the key shifts that must happen for healing, and what to do if you’re the only one fighting for your marriage right now. Whether you're barely holding on or just feeling stuck, this conversation will bring hope and clarity for your next steps.
 
🔑 Key Takeaways:
The biggest misconceptions about restoring a marriage
What to do when your spouse isn’t willing to change
Practical steps to rebuild trust, even after deep hurt
The role of faith and God's power in restoring a broken marriage
 
🎧 Listen now and take the first step toward healing!
⏰ Timestamps:0:00 - Personal story: Feeling hopeless but choosing to fight for restoration5:30 - The truth about marriage restoration—what no one tells you10:45 - The mistake couples make when trying to fix things too quickly15:20 - Why personal healing is the key to a healthier marriage21:00 - What to do when your spouse isn’t interested in changing25:40 - Encouragement & your next steps
 
📌 Resources & Links Mentioned:
Book a free marriage coaching call
Grab the Free Guide for Wives: 3 Steps to a Stronger Marriage
Join The Deeply Connected Marriage Coaching Program
 
Related podcast episodes on marriage restoration:
"Bonus | Does Healing Your Marriage Require Both Spouses? 3 Simple Things Wives Can Do To Start Healing Their Marriage Today"
"Bonus | Are You The Problem? Why You Need to Stop Isolating Yourself And Get Support From Within The Church"
18 | Live Coaching Session: Are You Incorrectly "reading your spouse's mind"? Break the Cycle of Overwhelm in Marriage 
How to Communicate With Your Husband So That He Will Want To Say Yes
 
💬 Do Your Part!If this episode encouraged you, please take a moment to leave a review! Your support helps more couples find the hope and tools they need. 💕

Bonus | God Is A God Of Order. Is There Order In Your Marriage?

God is a God of Order—Is There Order in Your Marriage?
✨ Is your marriage aligned with God’s divine order? In this bonus episode, we dive into how God’s design for marriage brings clarity, peace, and unity. If you're feeling stretched thin, exhausted, or unsure if you're "doing enough," this episode is for you.
💡 What You’ll Learn:
Why God’s order in marriage is essential for peace and unity
How busyness and distractions pull us away from His design
The foundational scriptures that reveal God’s blueprint for marriage
Why love, respect, and intentionality are key to a thriving relationship
Practical steps to realign your marriage with God’s order
📖 Resources & Scriptures Mentioned:
Genesis 2:24 – God’s order for marriage
Proverbs 18:22 – Wives are a blessing
1 Peter 4:8 – Love covers a multitude of sins
Proverbs 31 – Biblical wisdom for wives
Hebrews 13:4 – Honoring marriage
💬 Let’s Connect!Join the conversation in my Facebook group: United Christian Marriage
📅 Need personalized support? Book a free coaching call: Schedule here
If this episode blessed you, share it with a friend and leave a review! 🙌💙

20 | Is It Possible To Truly Be ONE With Your Spouse Early In The Marriage? Some Experts Say It Takes 6+ Years- Here's Why I Disagree

Does it really take 6-8 years to be united in marriage? Do you need to be married for 6-10 years to have it figured out? Short answer: NO, you can be the expert of your marriage in as little as 6 months (maybe less)This episode will break down how you can be united in your marriage starting today, with three simple shifts that are SO obvious, and yet so often missed. 🎙️ In This Episode, We Cover:
The one conversation that will help you avoid unnecessary stress and miscommunication in your marriage
How to plan your week together and get on the same page about schedules, work, family, and fun
Why operating in your God-given role as a wife is essential for a healthy, thriving marriage
Practical ways to stop being passive-aggressive, snappy, or negative and instead support your husband’s leadership
How this simple habit can help you build a Christ-centered home and break toxic cycles
📌 Resources & Links Mentioned:🔹 Download the Free Marriage Guide – Learn how to embrace your God-given role as a wife🔹 Book a Free Marriage Coaching Call – Let’s work together to heal, communicate better, and strengthen your marriage
 
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Click ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ and leave a review! It takes just a few seconds and helps spread the message to more couples who need this encouragement. Plus, share this episode in your stories and tag me so we can reach even more families!
 
 
🙌 Remember: Healthy marriages create healthy homes, and healthy homes change generations. I’m praying for you and cheering you on! See you next time!

Bonus | How To Stop Being A Controlling Wife And Start Being The Biblical Wife You Desire To Be

From Control to Trust – How to Honor God in Your Marriage Without Fear
Are you struggling with control in your marriage? Do you find yourself constantly correcting your husband, stepping in to “fix” things, or feeling anxious when things aren’t done your way? You’re not alone, and more importantly—you don’t have to stay stuck in this cycle.
In this episode, we’re diving into:✔️ What the Bible says about a quarrelsome wife and how to break free from this pattern✔️ Why learning to respect your husband (without nagging or micromanaging) transforms your marriage✔️ How to stop being a controlling wife and start walking in trust and peace✔️ What true Christian wife discipline looks like—hint: it’s not about being passive, it’s about being spiritually strong✔️ The biblical marriage principles that will help you shift from control to godly confidence
What does the Bible say about a wife’s role in marriage? If you’ve ever wondered how to balance being a strong, confident, biblical wife while also honoring God’s design for marriage, this episode will give you clarity and encouragement and walk you through Biblical Marriage Principles.
Looking for an alternative to Christian marriage therapy? This podcast—and our free coaching calls—might be exactly what you need! Book a free call with me to talk through what’s going on in your marriage and get biblical guidance tailored to your situation.
 
🔗 Resources & Links Mentioned:📖 Download my Free Workbook for Christian Wives 🗣️ Book a Free Coaching Call – Let’s work through this together!🎧 Listen to More Christian Marriage Resources on the podcast- leave us a review on Apple Podcasts!!
 
Healthy marriages create healthy homes—and healthy homes change generations. Let’s build a God-honoring, thriving marriage together!
 

19 | Why Do I Let My Emotions Control Me? Do Spiritual Maturity and Spiritual Immaturity Have a Part In It?

Are You Being Led by Your Emotions? How to Make Decisions with Wisdom and Faith  
In this episode of United Christian Marriage, we’re diving into an important question: Are you being led by your emotions? And if so, how much weight should emotions carry in your decision-making as a Christian?  
 
When emotions control your life, it can feel overwhelming—like you’re constantly reacting instead of making decisions with wisdom and faith. Many wives struggle with why they feel out of control of their emotions, especially when balancing marriage, parenting, and faith. But does spiritual maturity mean turning off emotions altogether, or is there a better way?  
 
Here’s what we cover: - The pressure wives face to juggle multiple roles while staying emotionally balanced  - Why emotions can’t always be trusted—especially when we’re spiritually immature (spiritual immaturity definition)  - A biblical perspective on decision-making and why spiritual growth is essential (spiritually mature meaning)  - How emotional reactions (like anxiety or gut feelings) can sometimes mislead us (why do I let my emotions control me?)  - The difference between intuition and fear-based reactions rooted in past trauma (do not be led by your emotions)  - Practical steps to grow spiritually so you can discern God’s voice from your emotions  
 
If you’ve ever wondered what it means when your emotions control you or how to stop being led by emotions, this episode will give you clarity and encouragement.  
 
 
Resources & Links Mentioned:  - Book a Free Coaching Call – Get personalized guidance on strengthening your marriage  - Join the Facebook Community– Connect with other Christian wives on this journey  
 
 
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