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Bonus | Marriage Killers: The 3 Biggest Threats To Your Realtionship

Are you unintentionally letting dysfunction creep into your marriage? Are you stuck in loops of asking yourself what's going wrong in your marriage?In today’s episode of the United Christian Marriage Podcast, we’re breaking down the top 3 threats to your relationship—the “marriage killers” that sabotage even strong couples. I’m sharing personal stories (yes, even crying-in-bed moments), how we worked through it with God’s help, and the tools we now rely on when things get hard. What You’ll Learn: - The 3 biggest threats that quietly destroy Christian marriages - How to recognize if one (or all) of them is already active in your home - A personal story of emotional overload and how I used our emotional reboot tool to reset - The importance of community when you’re walking through marriage struggles 🙋‍♀️ Ready to go deeper? Join the United Christian Marriage Facebook group for daily encouragement, biblical tools, and real conversations about what it takes to build a Christ-centered home. I’d love to see your face and get to know your story 💛Other Mentioned Resources:
Listen to the episode that explains the P.A.T.H. to processing emotions🎉 Join The Deeply Connected Marriage Coaching Program

29 | Marriage is a Covenant, Not a Contract: Why This Mindset Shift Changes Everything

Are you thinking about marriage God's way, or are you thinking about it the world's way? Are you quietly stuck in a “lazy love” season of marriage? Not on the edge of divorce, but not thriving either? In this episode, we’re examining what the Bible says about the marriage covenant and uncovering three key reasons your relationship might feel blah, even if no one else notices.  Don’t miss the encouragement at the end, including a powerful prayer over your marriage and a handful of Bible verses you’ll want to save for later. What You’ll Learn in This Episode: - The surprising trap of “lazy contentment” and why it's so common - The difference between grateful rest and spiritual stagnation in marriage - 3 big reasons your marriage might feel stuck (and how to move forward)- Key scriptures to anchor your heart and your home: A heartfelt prayer for hurting, numb, or disengaged couples Your Next Step: If today’s episode stirred something in your heart and you want personalized help figuring out what to do next, book a free marriage coaching call with me! I’ll help you get clear on what’s keeping you stuck and how to take the next right step toward healing. 📌 Resources & Links Mentioned: Join the Facebook group: United Christian Marriage ➡️ Book a free coaching call with me 🎉 Join The Deeply Connected Marriage Coaching ProgramLeave a ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ review to help others find this message:1. Go to the United Christian Marriage podcast page on Apple Podcasts (the main one, make sure you aren't on an episode)2. Scroll all the way down, under the episodes, and stop when you see ratings and reviews. 3. Between the reviews others have left and the "About" section, there is a little button that says "Write a Review". Click on that, type 5 stars, title your review, and then write what you like about the show. Then press "Submit" in the top right corner.
That's it! Thank you a ton!

Bonus | This Surprising Habit Brought Her and Her Husband Closer Than Ever: Building Confidence & Connection Through Fitness (w/ Special Guest Rachel DeSonier, Host of Effective Weight Loss For Moms)

What if lifting weights could restore connection in your marriage? 💪 In this unexpected conversation, I sit down with Christian fitness and nutrition coach and mom of many, Rachel DeSonier, to talk about how strength training can reshape more than just your body. Getting stronger requires understanding both exercise and nutrition.We dive into identity, confidence, and the ripple effect it has on your relationship.About Rachel: Rachel DeSonier is both a Registered Dietitian and a CertifiedPersonal Trainer, as well as a mom of 5. She specializes in helpingmoms gain confidence through incorporating simple, effectivestrength training routines into their lives. She pairs this with hernutrition expertise to help them fuel their workouts and lose fat atthe same time.Rachel takes a practical, step-by-step approach to help moms builda new lifestyle that helps them reach their weight loss goals in asustainable way. No more crash diets! Her specialty is helping momscreate consistency with their fitness goals.When she isn’t podcasting or coaching her clients, Rachel can befound in the weights section of her gym, gardening, or attempting tokeep her 5 young kids out of mischief.📎 Resources & Links Mentioned: 🎥 Free “No Fear Weight Room Tour” video 🎧 Listen to the Effective Weight Loss For Moms podcast
🤝 Book a Free Coaching Call with Micaiah & Levi to talk through how you and your spouse can take that next right step in your marriage

28 | Sick Of Fighting? Here's How To Stop Any Argument In It's Track

Do You Struggle With Snapping, Fighting, or Overreacting in Your Marriage? Here's a Script You Can Use When You're Triggered
Are you ever surprised by how fast you go from calm to reactive? 😤 Maybe you feel blindsided by your own emotions, or you're wondering, "Why did I snap like that?"
In today’s episode, I’m walking you through a simple but powerful reset script that you can use when you or your spouse gets triggered. 💬 Whether it's something your spouse said—or how they said it—this episode gives you the exact words to say to de-escalate the moment and move toward healing instead of hurt.
We talk about:
✨ Why your reaction is often deeper than the moment
🛑 The simple phrase that can change the tone of your entire marriage
🗣️ A full reset script to use in real-time, even when emotions are high
🙏 How to pause, pray, and invite the Holy Spirit into your marriage conflict
🎁 PLUS: I share a coaching strategy you can use this week to practice resetting with your spouse, without stuffing your feelings or avoiding the hard stuff.
👇 Listen now if you're ready to:
Stop spiraling in arguments
Create safety during conflict
Lead your home with emotional maturity and grace
Let’s transform how you handle those hot-button moments—because you’re not broken, you’re just human. And with the Holy Spirit, there's always hope for healing. 💛
📌 Resources & Links Mentioned:
👉 Book a free Christian marriage coaching call
Join The Deeply Connected Marriage Coaching Program
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27 | Are Your Emotional Outbursts Causing A Strain On Your Marriage? Follow The P.A.T.H. Method: A Simple Process for Handling Hard Emotions. (With Special Guest Levi Gray, aka My Husband)

Is It Weak to Cry? How do you stop letting emotions run your life? What Jesus Shows Us About Emotions (and how that applies in marriage)
In this episode:We’re diving into the truth about emotional expression in marriage, especially for husbands. What does the Bible say about crying, grief, and sadness? And how does Jesus model emotional strength for Christian men? This one might challenge what you’ve believed about "manhood" in marriage, but it’s going to open the door to healing, deeper connection, and powerful unity.
 
💡 What you'll learn:
Why Jesus openly expressed sorrow—and what that means for your marriage
How naming your emotions is a spiritual and relational breakthrough
What it looks like for husbands to lead with honesty instead of stoicism
How wives can support (and not shame) a grieving husband
The surprising way emotional vulnerability reflects God's design for unity
 
👣 Listen now if you want to:
Understand how emotional walls might be keeping your marriage stuck
See how the enemy twists masculinity into emotional suppression
Let Jesus reshape your view of strength and sorrow
Feel closer to your spouse through shared grief and gentleness
Heal the hidden parts of your heart by following Christ’s example
 
🧭 Resources & Links Mentioned:
Book a free marriage coaching session
Join The Deeply Connected Marriage Coaching Program
Bonus ep: Grumbling, Complaining, And Struggling To Keep Going When Things Get Hard? Here's 3 Things Jesus Teaches Us About Coping
 

Bonus | Devotional: How To Keep Going When Marriage Is Hard. Here's 3 Things Jesus Teaches Us About Coping

Are you following God in your marriage—or just doing what feels natural? Have you heard of The Marriage Killer We Don’t Talk About: Grumbling, Complaining, and Following Your Flesh?
In today’s devotional-style episode, we’re getting brutally honest about the internal patterns that quietly sabotage Christian marriages. We dive into scripture and talk about how easy it is to fall into selfishness, grumbling, and complaining… and how these "small" habits can tear down the unity God intended for our homes.
If you’ve ever thought, “Why do I feel so disconnected from my spouse?”—this episode might hold the answer. 👀
Here’s what we unpack inside this episode:
The surprising connection between selfishness and marital division
What the Bible says about those who “live only to satisfy their desires”
A Spirit-led heart check you can do today
Why grumbling and flattery are signs you might be out of alignment
How to shift your mindset and actions for a stronger, Christ-centered marriage
🎯 Ready for a reset in your marriage?
If you want my personal help walking through your marriage challenges and figuring out your next right step for the most impact, I’d love to support you.
➡️ Book a free 1-on-1 coaching call

26 | Do You Feel Like You’re Doing All the Work And He Doesn’t Notice? 5 Steps To Get The Support You Need

How to Get the Support You Actually Need From Your Spouse (Without Feeling Bitter or Unseen)
If you’ve ever felt like your husband just doesn’t get it—like you’re carrying the mental load and he’s missing the weight of it—this episode is for you. You’re not alone in feeling like your needs go unseen or that you're expected to juggle it all without complaint. But what if your spouse isn’t ignoring you… he just doesn’t know what you need?
In this raw and hope-filled conversation, we’ll break down:
What to do when you’re overwhelmed and he doesn’t notice
The truth about why our husbands don’t “just know”
How to stop expecting mind-reading and start creating real partnership
5 powerful steps to start getting the support you need—without resentment
Biblical wisdom that can shift how you both show up in your marriage
This episode will help you move from silent tension to true partnership, with language and tools that create connection, not conflict. 💛
🎧 Tune in now and grab a notebook—you’ll want to take notes!
 
🙌 Ready for Support in your marriage:Book your free marriage coaching session and get clarity on what your next step is—together. You’ll leave with a custom game plan, greater insight, and zero pressure. Spots are limited, so grab yours now.
👉 Book Your Free Call Here
 
 
🎙️ Resources & Mentions:
Simple Rhythms for Busy Moms podcast by Kyan Molina
Systemize Your Life with Chelsi Jo
Scripture references: Mark 14:32-27, Jude 16:17-24, James 1:19, Ephesians 4:29, Proverbs 15:1
Book a Free Coaching Call Here

Bonus | Being Unequally Yoked In Marriage (With Britton George, Host Of The Called And Courageous Christian Woman)

When the Picture-Perfect Marriage Isn’t Your Story With Special Guest Britton George. What if my marriage is a little untraditional? In this episode, we discuss second marriages, unequally yoked, how anxiety and depression play a part in this, and the realities of a blended family.Marriage is already a journey, but what happens when you're navigating a second marriage, a blended family, or differences in faith? These challenges can feel overwhelming, but they don’t have to divide you. In this bonus episode, I sit down with Britton George for an honest conversation about what it’s like to rebuild after brokenness and follow God through an unequally yoked marriage. We talk about getting married young, healing after divorce, navigating trauma in your relationship, and learning how to show up in a marriage where you’re not equally yoked spiritually. Britton shares what it’s been like blending a family, surrendering the image of a “perfect Christian marriage,” and trusting God’s timing—even when it’s not what you expected. If you’ve ever felt like your story doesn’t fit the mold, this one’s for you.
Here's what you'll learn:
✅ What it means to be unequally yoked—and how to handle it
✅ Why your spouse might shut down—and what it really means
✅ How past wounds and experiences shape the way you show up in marriage
✅ The key to navigating emotional withdrawal and differences in communication
✅ How to trust God with the marriage you have, not just the one you imagined
 
🎧 Tune in now for biblical encouragement and practical strategies to strengthen your marriage, no matter where you're starting from!
 
About Britton:
Britton is a Jesus-loving wife, mom to four wild and wonderful boys, and a passionate educator at heart. As a Christian life transformation coach, she helps women break free from anxiety, fear, and overwhelm so they can live boldly in their God-given calling.
She’s the author of Ten Days to Peace, host of the Called and Courageous Christian Woman podcast, and a co-host to the Better Together Christian Women's Retreats, which focus on building connection and friendships for Christian women. 
Through her coaching programs, transformational retreats, and signature frameworks, she specializes in helping women reclaim inner peace, deepen their spiritual walk, and live out their faith with courageous confidence. Whether you're stuck in fear, living in overwhelm, or ready to walk in purpose, her message is a timely invitation to stop striving—and start surrendering.
 
Resources & Links Mentioned:📌 Listen to Brittons Podcast: The Called and Courageous Christian Woman📌 Grab Her Book on Amazon📌 Britton's website📌 Book a free coaching call with Micaiah 💬 Loved this episode? Leave a review and share with a friend who needs this encouragement! 🙌 

25 | Healing A Broken Marriage: What Actually Works (And What Doesn't)

How to fix a broken marriage?
Imagine waking up and finally feeling safe, seen, and supported in your marriage. No walking on eggshells. No more wondering if it’s even worth the fight. Just peace, connection, and knowing you're in this together. Sounds far off? It’s not. In this episode, we’re diving deep into what actually works when your marriage feels broken—and what doesn’t.
If you’ve ever thought:
“Is it even possible to fix this?”
“I’m the only one trying…”
“We’re just too different.”
“He’ll never change.”
“I don’t even know if I care anymore…”
You’re not alone—and you are NOT without hope. Today we’re talking through those thoughts, how to reframe them, and how the renewing of your mind (Romans 12:2) can transform your entire relationship from the inside out.
🎧 Hit play to learn:
What you might be doing that’s pushing your spouse away (without realizing it)
Why “waiting for them to change” doesn’t work—and what to do instead
The role of spiritual warfare in your marriage (and how to fight the right enemy)
Simple, doable shifts that make a BIG difference (like one daily habit that builds connection)
How God can restore what feels beyond repair
🙌🏽 This episode is packed with truth, hope, and practical help—whether your spouse is on board or not. You don’t have to stay stuck. Healing is possible. And it starts with the way you think.
📘 Resources & Links Mentioned:
📞 Book a free marriage coaching call with me: Book Here
🎙️ Listen to past episodes that will encourage you right where you are
📖 Ready to join the United Marriage coaching program? Apply To The Deeply Connected Marriage Coaching Program
 
 
🙏🏽 If this blessed you, would you do me a favor?Share this episode with a friend who’s struggling in her marriage.Leave a review so more women can find this hope.You never know the ripple effect your share could have. 💌
 
 
💛 Remember: Healthy marriages create healthy homes, and healthy homes change generations. I’m rooting for your transformation—and praying for YOU today.
 

24 | Self-Improvement Is The Answer To Your Marriage Struggles (Here's Why)

What is biblically aligned self-improvement and how can it transform your marriage? How to self-coach and transform your marriage.
🌟 Ever feel like your brain is working against you in your marriage?
When emotions run high, our minds can jump to conclusions that aren’t always true. "He never listens." "She doesn't care." But what if you could rewire those thoughts and respond in a way that strengthens your marriage instead of tearing it down?
In this episode, we’re diving into three powerful steps to self-coach in the moment, so you can:
🔹 Recognize the thoughts driving your reactions 🔹 Separate thoughts from facts to gain clarity 🔹 Choose healthier, more productive ways to respond
This episode is PACKED with practical wisdom to help you shift your mindset and break cycles of dysfunction in your marriage. Plus, we talk about how your childhood experiences might be influencing your current marriage dynamics—and what you can do about it.
➡️ Want to go deeper? I offer free coaching calls so you can experience this work firsthand. No selling, just coaching! Book your free session below.
➡️ Join our FREE Facebook group to access tomorrow’s exclusive training on creating a Christ-centered marriage. Link below.➡️ Have a specific question you want to ask Micaiah? Click here to ask an (anonymous) question for Micaiah to answer on the podcast.
Resources & Links Mentioned:
📌 Book a Free Marriage Coaching Call: Click Here📌 Join the United Marriage Facebook Group for our free training for wives (happening tomorrow!): Join Here
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Remember: Healthy marriages create healthy homes, and healthy homes change generations. I’m praying for you!
🌟 With love & blessings, Micaiah Gray